TOP SECRET... your mission should you choose to accept it!

Hey everyone,
Well, I have been promising this for months, but here is the final part to the TOP SECRET mission I have been planning for a while. Now for those of you who struggle this Christmas with everything... I wanted to give you something fun to do. This is meant in the spirit of Christmas, of love, joy, generosity and peace. And most importantly the spirit of GIVING! :)

What I would like you to do is find someone who looks like they could use a little kindness from you (that really shouldnt be too hard as its Christmas and pretty much everyone is stressed and could use a little kindness), and find a way to ANONYMOUSLY provide a Random Act of Kindness to them. This is just a little different to the usual kindnesses I do, so I am kind of looking forward to surprising a stranger.

For those of you who remember last year, around Christmas time, my little car broke down in a parking lot and a stranger bought me a bottle of wine. I was so surprised that I just loved that someone would do that for me, particularity around Christmas time when everyone is so busy and stressed about the Christmas celebrations. So i want to "Pay it Forward" but on a global scale.

If you have not seen the movie "Pay it Forward", I highly recommend it! It is a little sad in some points but it is really inspiring and very challenging! But it is an amazing movie none the less! (warning: I wouldn't watch the movie with your kids, until you have seen it first and can decide for yourselves if it is appropriate for them to watch!)

Anyways, I think I am getting a little distracted! woops!

This Christmas I wanted to encourage each and every one of you to do a Random Act of Kindness, and if possible to take a photo of that kindness so I can share it with everyone else here! and we can all see what affect this challenge has had on our world. I say, take a photo because a picture tells a thousand words and they seem to spread like wildfire on the internet (so please only share a photo that you are comfortable sharing on this page or that will eventually end up on Pinterest, Facebook or the like).

If anyone wants some ideas, I have a tonne of them on my Pinterest page here. 

Or here are 16 awesome photos of Kindnesses that have been done. I love these so very much but be warned... they may make you cry! My sister asked me to include this warning, after she was in tears after about the 5th one! :)

Also, if you want to encourage others to "Pay it Forward" then you can check out the blog by Thumba-Lea where she made special tags that you can print out and pass on (they are at the very end of the blog post)! :) Such an awesome idea! :) Also she has some awesome ideas for this Kindess challenge! :)

Oh, I forgot my favorite part! As an added incentive to get your stories and kindness photos back BEFORE Christmas, I am going to give the first three people the book "The Magic" by Rhonda Byrne. If you read the previous post you know how big an impact it has had on me, and I wanted to pass on the blessing it has been in my life. I know there are people from all over the world reading this blog,

I wanted to also give away a couple of the "The Power of Kindness" however, the books have not arrived in time, they may arrive in the new year (so might have to do something like this again). One of the reasons I have sort of been stalling...

So... where was I? oh, yes! If you can send me a copy of your photo, and a little story (to go with it), and your address (privately only) so that I can sent the books to you (if you want one... if not, that's cool too)! I look forward to how awesome this will be, not to mention fun!!! If you email me at act_positive@hotmail.com or contact me through the Facebook page (I can accept private messages with the Facebook Page!), we can get these photo coming! :) So very excited! :) 


I love that there are people from all over the world on this blog, and I look forward to seeing the global impact this challenge has on us all! And to getting to know my readers a little more... yes... I'm looking at you! ;)

I am planning on doing this photo Random Act of Kindness too... but I wont include my name in the book incentive part of this TOP SECRET mission... after all I already own the books! :) lol! But they are so awesome I have to share them with you all! :D

So Good luck! The last photos, to go in the book incentive challenge will be on Christmas Eve! I know that sounds a little Crazy, because it is so busy for all of us, but I think that we will all look forward to the joy we bought to others over the weeks leading up to Christmas! I will send the books out after Christmas so that they should arrive sometime in the new year (for more exotic locations, it could take a while... I don't really know what postal services are like in very many countries... so fingers crossed!). I am more than happy to keep receiving photos after that if you find you were too busy to send them to me before Christmas! :)


I look forward to hearing from you all soon,
Luv Daena xxx

p.s. If you want to hear another inspiring story of how kindness at Christmas made the world of difference, i suggest you check out this Bloggess post!  it made me cry with hope and joy! :) Maybe next year we can do something like this!? let me know if you are keen! :) xx

1000 Page Views...WOW!!!!!

What an amazing thing! We reached 1000 page views and there have been just under 200 in the last few days! WOW!!!

I want to thank my family and friends who have made this so possible. You inspire me and challenge me! You give me hope for the future!

So, like the rock star I wish I was, I will dedicate this success to you! My champions! My supporters! Here is a photo of me... Celebrating this little success...

(ok... so its sideways! I had a little trouble trying to make it work but... well... the thought is still there! lol! :)


Congratulations all, on your success in keeping me motivated! Some times, I know, it can be a hard job! :)

Much love,
Daena xxx

Last nights talk... at least I think it went fairly well!

Hey everyone, 

Last night I gave my talk at the Floreat Salvation Army. As many of you missed it, and asked for me to share it here, I have decided to! I'm trying to be good... so I'm not postponing posting this for some time in the future either! Go me! lol! I may just get all of last years RAKs online by the end of this year! lol!

Before you read the following, let me be really clear, this is MY theology. This is what I believe and I do not expect you to believe the same thing as I do! I understand that everyone has their own idea of God (gods, or divine teachers), faith, religion and theology!

So please, do like I usually ask... try it on and if it doesn't fit, discard it. 

NOTE: Before I started the actual "talk" last night, we watched Peaches Neet Feet (the link is in the previous blog post!). The video is pretty awesome! :) 

Kindness

Galatians 5:22-26 -New International Version (NIV)

" ²² But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, ²³ gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. ²⁴ Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. ²⁵ Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. ²⁶ Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other"

I was reading over these verses last night. The fruits of the spirit! (in my version of the bible) They are love, joy, peace, endurance, patients, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. The one that resonates with me most is Kindness. For the last four years kindness has been showing up clearly in my life.


In 2009, i was getting frustrated with the worlds focus on pain and suffering. Newspapers & television broadcasts, local, state, national and international news are all focused on the negative. So I decided I would start a project online to encourage people to act kindly to those around them and so PROJECT 25 was born. I invited friends of mine from all over the world to participate by doing a kind act for another in their community. I asked then, to write a small report on it and email it to me, so that we could all celebrate the "good things" in life. I also hoped it would get other motivated to do their own Acts of Kindness.

My aim was 1000 reports in the space of a year, from the 25th of June 2009- 25th of June 2010. Its called Project 25, as it was to finish on my 25th birthday!

Anyway, so i hoped for a 1000 kindness reports and i got.... drum roll please.... that's right... 36! Okay, so its not the 1000 reports that i had hoped for, but the project was still a success! Over 36 people were touched by kindness (that's just those who wrote the reports not those affected by it). There were some awesome reports that came in too. Like this one... from Germany. 

 

This was a person helping a friend move house.... without much success, BUT they had a lot of fun! 

Anyways, I published these Project 25-Random Acts of Kindness reports on Facebook and all those who had expressed interest in the Project 25 concept (well over 300 hundred people) enjoyed the reports. 

All those who participated had a good time and I started wondering about doing it all again. But i decided that the best way to get people motivated is to lead by example, so i decided to start a side project. 

What was a good way to boost numbers for Project 25? That's right! Committing to doing a kindness per day for 365 days, a whole year! 

To be honest I didn't tell too many people about it! I was pretty sure they would have thought I was nuts! I thought I was nuts and that it would be impossible. But i started on the 1st of January 2011, after giving myself 6 months off from Project 25. 

I decided to run both over a calendar year, instead of between my birthdays. I decided the best way for me to remain accountable, and also so i would actually do a kind deed every day, was to write about it on an online diary, or as most people call them, a Blog. 

It was good to be able to keep people up to date with my kind deeds and to avoid premeditated failure. 

So on December 31, 2011, I completed 365 Days of Kindness.  I actually did it! A whole year of kind deeds! After a year of this "side project" i realized that i couldn't stop there! So i decided to keep going! And i have crazily committed myself to another year of doing a kindness per day. This year thought there are 366 days thought so i get to do an extra day of kindness instead of just 365days.. a bonus day!

The main thing that i have learned from all of this is that people are inherently kind! its is the fruit of the spirit which exists in all of us! Yet we choose between kindness & compassion and between selfishness & abuse. 

It is a pretty hard thing to grasp in such a short time, but I'll do my best to explain why kindness is so important and what it has to do with God! you know, apart from the fruits of the spirits thing! 

At the beginning of the bible we are given the Jewish laws, of which there are over 300 of them. Years later, God sent his servant Moses, and he simplified the Jewish laws with the 10 commandments. Another couple of thousand years come and go, and Jesus comes along and simplifies the last 10 commandments and condenses it down to two! 

Matthew 22:37-40

" ³⁷ Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’^{[a] 38} This is the first and greatest commandment. ³⁹ And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’^{[b] 40} All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

I guess I need to ask the question, how much do you love yourself? and I dont mean it in an arrogant way! 

I love myself enough to not intentionally hurt people, to treat people with love and respect and to treat myself the same way.

I need to be very clear here! I am NOT perfect! And i don't think i am in any way better than any of you!

I have those days when i get angry at the guy who cut me off, or grumble loudly to a waitress to make her feel bad that she has taken 10 minutes to serve me that her usual 5! I yell at people and grisle but i make the choice to react badly or I choose to be understanding or honest or patient! 

I understand (most days) that the guy who cut me off was probably as a result of another driver and not the poor guy I am silently, or not so silently, yelling at in my car. Or I am honest with myself that there are only 3 staff on instead of the usual 4, and the waitress is not responsible for a staff shortage. I try to be patient with the little things so that I will not get as frustrated. I am patient that I even have these reactions.

But I guess you're asking yourself, what does all of this have to do with Kindness?

I believe kindness is the foundation of the two great commandments. The word "love" is often brandished about a lot. People often use if for their own gain. 

Kindness however is a little harder to do that with as there are so many traits that are the basis of kindness.At times its difficult to actually express kindness when one or more of these traits is missing.

Trying to be the "Kindness Guru" that people imagine me to be, I have been reading a lot about it! Piero Ferrucci, in the book "The Power of Kindness -  The unexpected benefits of leading a Compassionate life", talks about the traits that are difficult to do with out. 

They are honesty, warmth, forgiveness, trust, mindfullness, empathy, humility, patience, generosity, respect, flexibility, memory, loyalty, gratitude, service and joy. Correct me if i am wrong, but these are also the basis of a good marriage and great love. Without one of these traits, kindness falls down, as does the final commandment Jesus gave us. 

Jesus was a man who displayed all of these traits in his life. I could have gone through the bible and given you an example of each trait with a bible verse or story, but i think you know what i mean. 

Kindness is the foundation of all Jesus did and he did it because of love. Love is a great motivator, Kindness is the expression of it. 

I want to read a little from the Preface of the book by Piero Ferrucci. Like me, the Dalai Lama read this book and thought it was pretty awesome. So i just want to read a little about what he had to say about it. 

"I believe that if we stop to think, it is clear that our very survival, even today depends upon the acts and kindness of so many people. Right from the moment of our birth, we are under the care and kindness of our parents; later in life, when facing the suffering of disease and old age, we are again dependent on the kindness of others. If at the beginning and end of our lives we depend upon others kindness, why then in the middle, when we have the opportunity, should we not act kindly toward others? 

Kindness and compassion are among the principal things that make our life meaningful. They are the source of lasting happiness and joy. they are the foundation of a good heart, the heart of one who acts out of the desire to help others. Through kindness, and thus through the affection, honesty, truth and justice toward everyone else, we ensure our own benefit. This is a matter of common sense. Consideration for others is worthwhile because our happiness is inextricably bound up  with the happiness of others. Similarly, if society suffers, we ourselves suffer. On the other hand, the more our hearts and minds are afflicted with ill will, the more miserable we become. therefore, we cannot avoid the necessity of kindness and compassion. [...]

It is tremendously important that we try to make something positive of our lives! We are not born for the purpose of causing trouble and harming others. For our lives to be of value ... we need to foster and nurture such basic good human qualities as warmth, kindness, and compassion. If we can do that, our lives will become meaningful, happier, and more peaceful; we will make a positive contribution to the world around us" (Ferrucci, 2006, ix-xi)

Earlier, i shared the video "Peaches Neet Feet", and i simply love this video becuase it shows what one person can do with a passion, like painting, and that is so simple. 

To finish up as i usually do i want to issue with a challenge... but before i do that i want to show you a video. This is what is possible, and this is how by doing something nice for someone else, you can have a large impact, a boomerang effect! 

Kindesses can be so simple! We even, sometimes, doing them without thinking about it. 

From holding a door open for a stranger, with a disability or with prams and children. To calling, texting,or emailing a friend you haven't seen for a while, to paying for a strangers meal, to spending time volunteering for a charity. These are but a few ideas. Use your imagination! There are so many opportunities. 

I know the Salvation Army are usually linked to doing these things, but make it a kindness not a duty. if you feel like you HAVE to do these things, then it is NOT a kindness it is duty. And if you resent having to do an act of service, again, it is NOT a kindness! 

Kindnesses are fun (or funny when you think about that photo i showed you)! And the giver gains as much as the reciever. It is an injection of goodwill and has "unexpected benefits". 

My challenge to you, is to do a kind deed this month. Write it down! Remember it! Know what you are capable of! By being kind, you are also expressing Gods love for you, and his two greatest commandments! THE END!"

I hope you enjoyed this talk as much as those there did! I had a fairly positive response to my message at the time!

I hope this finds you well and that you get something out of this message! 

Much love, 

Daena xxx

p.s. if you see or can pick up a copy of "The Power of Kindness - The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life" by Piero Ferrucci... I strongly recommend it. Its a very challenging book, but it is also an inspiration! Its one persons interpretation of Kindness but it seems to make a lot of sense! Its also about $12-$13 from The Book Depository and has free shipping internationally! :)